We have all been where you are right now

I came into CoDA looking for someone to sort out a dysfunctional relationship I was in at the time. Of course, I didn’t get help sorting out my relationship – that was my job, but I certainly received help in understanding the co-dependent role I played within it. - D.R.

I came to CoDA because I knew the way I was living wasn't working for me. Through the 12 steps, I've found a great framework to help guide me on the path to positive change. - L.H.

I had been recommended to try CoDA as I was struggling to recover from a break up in a relationship. I really thought codependency was for needy people and as I considered myself strong & independent. I really thought it was not going to be the right place for me. I was totally shocked as they read the CoDA preamble and then the CoDA welcome at my first meeting,  I related to almost every word and was reduced to tears for the whole meeting, realising that CoDA was exactly where I needed to be and if I did the work in this fellowship I was going to have a new strength within to be that which God intended “precious and free.” I don’t think I had ever felt that in my entire life! I was 6 years sober in another fellowship and feeling so stuck emotionally.  Almost 4 years on I have completely turned my life around in this programme.  I do now have peace, strength and an acceptance in my life that I never believed possible and I do now, most certainly, feel precious and free!! Thank God for those who loved me enough to lead me to CoDA. - L.S.

I came to CoDA when I felt trapped in an unhealthy relationship. I knew it was making me unhappy, but I couldn't stop going back to the same person and repeating the same mistakes over and over again. CoDA helped me to regain my integrity by teaching me to feel my feelings, to be a good parent to myself and to value my own happiness. It's the first time in my whole life that I've found the help I really needed. - D.T.

I am grateful every day for CoDA. After 5 years of recovery, working the 12 steps, I can see such immense benefits in my life. I now have a healthy relationship with myself, and my Higher Power. My relationships with my children and extended family are healing and becoming more authentic. I am learning to be loving and compassionate with myself and others. I have learnt not to give unsolicited advice, I ask if I can share my thoughts or opinions beforehand. I speak my truth now, respectfully and have boundaries which I stick to. I have made beautiful, trusting, life-long friendships through CoDA and am now building a life that I love! - BM ​